If you're a reader, a fan of books, passionate about words, you know all too well that a nursery rhyme is never just that. Right from Dame Agatha Christie who very creatively incorporated lines from rhymes as book titles to set the stage for her mystery sagas (A few notable examples of Christie's titles being One, Two, Buckle My Shoe, A Pocket Full of Rye, Three Blind Mice, Hickory Dickory Dock - Please feel free to treat these as book recommendations), to Sidney Sheldon whose use of the nursery rhyme quoted above still sent chills down my spine. In continuation of my regular series aimed at spreading Mental Health Awareness, today I shall be basing my post on a novel titled "Tell Me Your Dreams" by the aforementioned Sidney Sheldon. If you've already read the book, then i do not need to fret over revealing spoilers. If you haven't yet, then, really? why haven't you?! And do I really need bother about revealing details to such people? Eh, No! Jokes apart, I wouldn't dream of spoiling any book for anyone, yet, the topic that I intend to cover today is more important than any of this. So, here it goes. (Please read on, I assure you, you will still enjoy the book even after this.)
There all our kinds of relationships. However, some of these can be unhealthy and quite detrimental to our overall wellness. Oftentimes, we continue to subject ourselves to the torment of being in an unhealthy relationship. It is quite possible that one of the reasons underlying this habit can be the tendency of human nature to resist change. In doing so, it spells its own doom. At the cost of sounding selfish, I declare that no relationship is worth being in if it doesn't make you happy, does not let you grow as a person and if it gives you sleepless nights. You are, indeed, your foremost priority. No, you're not mean or self-centred if you prioritize yourself. This is so because the main essence of a well-rounded, fulfilling and healthy relationship is that it nurtures you to the extent that you don't have to invest in looking out for yourself. As a result, you return equal care and affection to your significant other. So when I ask you to prioritise yourself, I'm imploring you to get rid of the shackles of a lovesless relationship and welcome one that's actually right for you.
25! The magical number. An age when you actually feel like a mature, responsible, adult. When you can even pay for all the parties your friends try to get out of you on your birthday. Unfortunately, it's also the time when you sit back and question all your life choices. The fact that all your peers seem to be racing ahead doesn't help either. So, a normal pondering turns into a full blown panic attack stretching into a bout of stress and anxiety. You find that you're not where you'd hoped to be by now. You also find that you've no clue where you want to be or What you want to do. Not even what's best for you. Worst of all, you have no clue as to what you're currently doing. From then on, it's just a downward spiral into depression. I was surprised to find out that there's actually a term for this. The quarter-life crisis. No applause for guessing when I discovered it. Thus, to help kindred souls, I've compiled a list of life hacks that are aimed at getting you through this tough period and keeping your thoughts in perspective. I hope it helps.
As some of you might know, I was recently doing a regular feature on Mental Health Awareness. I discussed the importance of breaking the taboo surrounding such issues and to always get appropriate help in this regard. Then I proceeded to pen down my own interpretations of some mental health issues like depression, anxiety, self-doubt, Maladaptive Daydreaming. Today I realised how I missed out on a very important aspect of mental health. This is my rectification of the same. This happens to be the physical aspect of mental health. No, no, hear me out. I get that common understanding dictates mental and physical health to be two different categories albeit that go hand in hand. What I'm trying to propose here is that they're one and the same. You cannot have without the other. Hence, you need to strive to have both.
Her eyes crinkle as she laughs A full-throated, soulful chime. Her expressions flicker across her face, Betraying her thoughts every second of the day. They come and go with each word she says A little before and a little behind.
If you're happy in a dream, does that count? Even if reality is full of hurt, Where dreams turn dull and ambitions turn to dust. If you're happy in a dream, does that count? Even if you desperately need an escape Because in this world there is no place for hope.
We have all come to know and love the harrowed, milequetoast of a man by the name of Walter Mitty. Be it through Ben Stiller's portrayal of him in the movie or through the written word of James Thurber, we have all taken an unusual amount of delight in his escapades from the real world, especially from the browbeating of his overbearing wife. For the uninitiated, Walter Mitty was an avid daydreamer to the extent that he hallucinationed about his daydreams. From a war-time pilot, to a world renowned surgeon, to a roguishly carefree murderer, Walter Mitty became all, albeit in his own mind. He took no time in creating an idealized, heroic persona of his meek self at the slightest of emotional triggers. We have all laughed at his antics. We have also sympathised with the poor chap when he invariably got pulled out of his reveries just seconds before his moments of glory. Yet, behind this obsessive facet of the character lurks a deeper, important issue.
"Look! Do you see?" He asked as he turned her to face the mirror and removed his hand from over her eyes. Perplexed, she gazed up and down. It was just her, as she usually was. "Do you see how beautiful you are?" He asked her while holding her from behind. That's when she realised what he was trying to do.
As the haunting tones of the song wore on, I thought if someone really knew, What it was like to be, A victim of your own mind? A prison of your own making, where you're eternally entrapped. Can anyone really comprehend what it's like To have a mind that never rests? During the day or at ungodly hours The wheels, they keep on turning. Till you go crazy trying to calm down A mind that's always churning.
We can change the world, one word at a time. On this note, today, I'm going to do my bit by spreading awareness about mental health issues. I may not be qualified enough to decipher the intricacies of functionings of the human mind. However, I'm acutely aware that mental illnesses are still considered taboo in our society. No one recognises, addresses, discusses or resdresses these problems. Yet, you'd be surprised to know that mental illness is not a dirty secret to be always kept under wraps.